This morning, I came across this post from the blog Brittany, Herself. Brittany talks about how nothing good can happen unless we get over the fear of failure. It seems like a cliche, but take a minute to think about just how true this is. What can you accomplish without first being brave enough to try?
Something I liked about Brittany's post is that she acknowledges that not everything is going to work out. Failing is part of the process of success. It's something that I need to remind myself, since I definitely tend toward being a perfectionist. Last night, I was upset because a great opportunity that I thought would work out fell through. Part of it was my fault, but some of it was beyond my control. Even knowing that, I was busily analyzing what I could have done differently and better to make it work.
At one point I stopped myself. Just as I moved away from my negative thoughts, an email appeared in my inbox - an editor I work with asking if I was interested in a new gig. It was perfect timing. Missing out on a opportunity was hard, especially because I was partially to blame. Even though it is discouraging in the short term, I know I will learn from that mistake, and that will make me a stronger writer and business woman in the future. I want to make my business a success and I refuse to let fear of failure get in the way of that.
So many things in life require us to try, without worrying about failing. There is a reason that getting married is referred to as "taking the plunge." Whether it is committing to a new relationship, becoming a parent, or relocating for a job we are forced again and again to face our fear, and put ourselves out there to fail. And sometimes, we succeed.
What about you? What lessons have you had to learn the hard way? Which failures have taught you something in the long run? What are you trying now, unafraid?
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